Every day we hear about someone cheating on someone or something. But everyone has their own opinion of cheating. Also there are different types of cheating. It could be emotionally, mentally, or physically. The latest one I heard on the radio recently was a woman called in to see if her boyfriend was cheating on her with her best friend. I assume that the best friend was a woman but wrong it was with another male! SICK! Well at least in my opinion. So is it cheating if its with the same sex? It’s a double standard. If I had a boyfriend cheating on me with another dude I would feel totally disgusted. Just writing about it makes me sick right now. On the other hand if a guy had a girlfriend and she was caught cheating with another girl I don’t think its bad at all. Most guys dream about 2 girls anyway and society accepts two girls more often than two guys. It is still cheating but I do not think it is as extreme as other situations.
Is there a definition of cheating? Hold on let me Google it. According to Wikipedia, with regard to human relationships, couples tend to expect sexual monogamy of each other. If so, then cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. However, there are other divisions of infidelity, which may be emotional. So it seems like that only if one participates in a sexual manner with someone else it will be considered cheating. But what about kissing? It is not sexually but is it still cheating? I don’t think I ever believed in movies when people would try to get out of it by saying “he kissed me, I didn’t kiss him” both lips are touching so yeah you did kiss him or her. Whether or not if it was intentionally is a different story. Since in human relationships monogamy a relationship would consist of 2 people. Going outside of the other person and getting another person would than consist of cheating.
Women tend to be hurt more by cheating because of emotions. They are emotionally into that person and very sensitive. They have someone that they do not want to share and if your in a relationship they should not be any sharing going on. Some people do take it to another level in my opinion. I do also think that just because you may think of someone in a different way but do not act on it is innocent. For example, if I am in a committed relationship with someone but there is a guy at my job or school who I happen to think is attractive I think that is normal. Now if I put myself in the situation of perhaps going to lunch with this person, talking to them outside of work or school I am setting myself up which can possibly lead to something that I intended to do.
When your boyfriend or girlfriend goes out of town and you invite someone over to “hang out” and then something happens you know in the back of your mind what your intentions was. I hate when women stay in denial and be like we were just talking and one thing lead to another. BULLSHIT! Once you already have in your mind to act on something there is no stopping in someone. They are going to cheat.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER……well maybe…someone prove me wrong!
1. Avoid talking about Exes. It doesn’t matter if its yours,or his there is no reason to bring them up on a first date. Do you really want him thinking about his ex while on a date with you? There is a reason why they are called Exes. Don’t give a him a reason to compare you with her.
2. Leave religion alone for now. For some it a serious topic and when you first meet someone you don’t want to make anything at all serious before you truly get to know them. It could lead to arguing and debating especially if you two have different religious backgrounds.
3. Politics! Just like religion politics is serious to some. Your political party really only matters every 4 years. So not unless an election is coming up don’t bring it up. Obviously people have different outlooks on certain topics and when you add politics it never comes out good!
4. Crazy Family! If you know that someone in your family is crazy (literally) or an alcoholic or something that could cause drama later, don’t try to scare the guy away by telling him all the stories now. Let him get to know you for you and understand the family later. And don’t bring up that your Uncle Dan is in prison for killing someone either..
5. Background Check! If you have a background history that isn’t too pleasant don’t bring it up right away. Don’t lie about it either. If you went to jail for stalking an ex, keep it to yourself. You don’t want him to think your following his every move especially when you first met.
6. Future! Don’t try to include him in future plans. You just met. Even though you may have thought you hit it off don’t start planning any weekend getaways just yet. Don’t come off as desperate so soon!
7. Don’t bore him! If he tells you that he watches ESPN all day. Just because you don’t, don’t try to change the subject to a best selling author. Find something that you both can relate on.
Before I go to work each morning I watch Maury if I get a chance. It amazes me (if it is real) what some people go through in a relationship. There are all these stories about men beating up women and yet the women still stay with these men. Why?? I don’t know where it started that men shouldn’t beat on women but it is not a right thing to do. Some men always want to be in control have that power over someone else. Females tend to believe that men are always right and whatever they are doing is right because they are “protecting” them. It’s not common anymore but back in the day men were the ones to did everything for the household while the woman stays home and tends to the house and kids.
It seems like domestic violence has increased over the years and some continue to live with it. I think as times change so does people. According to Wikipedia, studies that find that women abuse men equally or even more than men abuse women. As a woman I do understand that we tend to be more sarcastic, have more emotion and tend to build situations more than it should be. But what exactly is considered as abuse? Is it different when a man slaps a woman compared to getting punched? Sometimes a man might slap a woman to calm her down but is that wrong?
In any situation domestic violence should be not be tolerated. In a relationship there will be disagreements and confrontations but it can all be easily avoided. Go into separate rooms and calm down before speaking to each other. Perhaps one person can go out for a drive around the block to gather thoughts. It is not right any situation to beat a woman where she is left with scars or mark or even bruises. Some men grow up without a man in their life and find it hard because they are not sure how to react in situations and the best way known to them is to fight. But if you or someone you know is going through domestic violence don’t stand for it at all and get out of the situation!
