Every day we hear about someone cheating on someone or something. But everyone has their own opinion of cheating. Also there are different types of cheating. It could be emotionally, mentally, or physically. The latest one I heard on the radio recently was a woman called in to see if her boyfriend was cheating on her with her best friend. I assume that the best friend was a woman but wrong it was with another male! SICK! Well at least in my opinion. So is it cheating if its with the same sex? It’s a double standard. If I had a boyfriend cheating on me with another dude I would feel totally disgusted. Just writing about it makes me sick right now. On the other hand if a guy had a girlfriend and she was caught cheating with another girl I don’t think its bad at all. Most guys dream about 2 girls anyway and society accepts two girls more often than two guys. It is still cheating but I do not think it is as extreme as other situations.
Is there a definition of cheating? Hold on let me Google it. According to Wikipedia, with regard to human relationships, couples tend to expect sexual monogamy of each other. If so, then cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. However, there are other divisions of infidelity, which may be emotional. So it seems like that only if one participates in a sexual manner with someone else it will be considered cheating. But what about kissing? It is not sexually but is it still cheating? I don’t think I ever believed in movies when people would try to get out of it by saying “he kissed me, I didn’t kiss him” both lips are touching so yeah you did kiss him or her. Whether or not if it was intentionally is a different story. Since in human relationships monogamy a relationship would consist of 2 people. Going outside of the other person and getting another person would than consist of cheating.
Women tend to be hurt more by cheating because of emotions. They are emotionally into that person and very sensitive. They have someone that they do not want to share and if your in a relationship they should not be any sharing going on. Some people do take it to another level in my opinion. I do also think that just because you may think of someone in a different way but do not act on it is innocent. For example, if I am in a committed relationship with someone but there is a guy at my job or school who I happen to think is attractive I think that is normal. Now if I put myself in the situation of perhaps going to lunch with this person, talking to them outside of work or school I am setting myself up which can possibly lead to something that I intended to do.
When your boyfriend or girlfriend goes out of town and you invite someone over to “hang out” and then something happens you know in the back of your mind what your intentions was. I hate when women stay in denial and be like we were just talking and one thing lead to another. BULLSHIT! Once you already have in your mind to act on something there is no stopping in someone. They are going to cheat.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER……well maybe…someone prove me wrong!
While I was growing up my mom always trusted me. From my knowledge she never went through my drawers or looked at my emails or listened on to my phone calls. If she wanted to know something she asked and I told her most of the time if it wasn’t anything major. I don’t want to say I lied to her about anything but of course teenagers will be teenagers and there are some events I did not inform her of. Now a days kids are getting cell phones at young ages, having email accounts, Twitter and Facebook accounts, text messages, etc. I was reading a post by someone and there were parents who say that if their children use one of the above mentioned that they will need their passwords to go into when needed.
I was reading that and I was totally shocked at that. I know that we are in an advance mode than my time. There are no more diaries that girls keep and everything is kept online mostly now. But not unless a parent suspected something terribly wrong why would they want to go into their Facebook accounts. In my opinion it is a complete invasion of privacy. Why would a parent expect that their child be honest with them about something if they are just going to go into their privacy and dig everything up? I know that in some cases that some kids need to be handled in different ways but in normal circumstances just because they have Facebook, Twitter, or email accounts doesn’t mean they are doing anything bad.
Trust has to start somewhere between a child and parent and if the parent does not even give the child a chance what makes that parent think that the child will be honest with them. Parents wonder why their kids do not want to speak to them or share with them certain times of their lives and it all starts when they are young.
