I heard this situation on the radio this morning and it has been in the back of my mind all day. I was listening to Power 96 this morning and they have a part of the show called “Busted” where a mate normally is suspects their spouse of cheating and they try to catch them. Anyway the situation this morning was an ex stripper got a phone call from a friend who says she had seen her boyfriend’s car pull up in some motel and apparently the area where the motel is located is known where men take women they find on the streets aka prostitutes, strippers, escorts, etc
Moving on, someone from the radio station called the strippers boyfriend acting like the manager at the hotel and said the room was damaged and he needed to pay (meanwhile the stripper is on the phone listening) and the guy says nothing was broken (admitting he was there). So the girlfriend comes on the phone and she says “I quit my career for you” I started cracking up laughing. You were a dang stripper what kind of career did you have. I guess it just makes me angry because the way she sounded the guy told her not to strip anymore and he will take care of her. HELLO!!! If is going to strip clubs in the first place don’t you think he is telling other women that same line as well?? Its like I don’t get how some women think..If you met a man while he was married or in a relationship what makes you think he won’t do the same thing to you? Are women really that naive? Everyone hopes for the best and swears they can change people but they can’t unfortunately.
Another pet peeve of mine is multiple baby daddies. I understand that there is no happily ever after anymore and people are having sex at age 12 but if your 30 with 6 kids and 5 different baby daddies what does that say about you? It does not make you look all that good and its just disgusting to me. I also understand that some people do not believe in abortion but if you know you like to sleep around wear CONDOMS take BIRTH CONTROL why keep bringing kids in this world who can barely get taken care of by both parents. It’s like people rush into relationships so fast now and I don’t get what changed in the world. I had a friend who moved her boyfriend in after 1 month!! I know all situations are different but there is no woman or man that can say its okay to live together after 30 days of knowing someone. What about having a baby with someone after 3 months of knowing them? It’s like wow what are people doing now a days..
I am trying to get this in before midnight so let me see how far I can get. First of all HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! I am kind of excited for the new year to see what it brings, what obstacles I can overcome and just a new start. My new year wasn’t anything special. I was trying to go to the Hard Rock casino in Ft. Lauderdale but parking was killer so we deferred to Las Olas. I am only 25 but it still surprises me how wasted some people get in public and how dumb they act. Its kind of funny to watch on my end but I just think how they feel the next morning. This one guy was caring a girl like 20 minutes before the countdown puking all over herself. Even the cops were smirking at her. We ended up going to the Hard Rock and it was quite busy and entertaining. I like the different types of people and how its not just one type of crowd. Boy did my feet hurt this morning well afternoon when I woke up. I wear flip flops and sandals almost everyday so heels was a mission for me but I must say I did well.
I told myself this year that I want to blog more whether it be about my fitness journey, life, questions about life etc. I don’t know if this is the last year until the end of the world or what but I plan on making it a productive one. My most important goal is to finish school and receive my Associates Degree and then start on my Bachelors. I have been wanting to go to Alaska for a while but not sure if that will happen or not but hey its on the list. My fitness is another top priority. I always go up and down up and down and I never fully commit. This year I have to stay focused and remember not to sweat the small stuff. I normally get distracted by small things that should not even bother me in the first place. I get discouraged so easily and think that I am not good enough to accomplish certain things but I am learning that I CAN accomplish what I want to do. It only takes hard work and dedication.
I have a lot of ideas, goals, and questions I will need answers to this year so I hope to hear from you through comments. I hope everyone the best this year and hope it will only be better than last!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!
Every day we hear about someone cheating on someone or something. But everyone has their own opinion of cheating. Also there are different types of cheating. It could be emotionally, mentally, or physically. The latest one I heard on the radio recently was a woman called in to see if her boyfriend was cheating on her with her best friend. I assume that the best friend was a woman but wrong it was with another male! SICK! Well at least in my opinion. So is it cheating if its with the same sex? It’s a double standard. If I had a boyfriend cheating on me with another dude I would feel totally disgusted. Just writing about it makes me sick right now. On the other hand if a guy had a girlfriend and she was caught cheating with another girl I don’t think its bad at all. Most guys dream about 2 girls anyway and society accepts two girls more often than two guys. It is still cheating but I do not think it is as extreme as other situations.
Is there a definition of cheating? Hold on let me Google it. According to Wikipedia, with regard to human relationships, couples tend to expect sexual monogamy of each other. If so, then cheating commonly refers to forms of infidelity, particularly adultery. However, there are other divisions of infidelity, which may be emotional. So it seems like that only if one participates in a sexual manner with someone else it will be considered cheating. But what about kissing? It is not sexually but is it still cheating? I don’t think I ever believed in movies when people would try to get out of it by saying “he kissed me, I didn’t kiss him” both lips are touching so yeah you did kiss him or her. Whether or not if it was intentionally is a different story. Since in human relationships monogamy a relationship would consist of 2 people. Going outside of the other person and getting another person would than consist of cheating.
Women tend to be hurt more by cheating because of emotions. They are emotionally into that person and very sensitive. They have someone that they do not want to share and if your in a relationship they should not be any sharing going on. Some people do take it to another level in my opinion. I do also think that just because you may think of someone in a different way but do not act on it is innocent. For example, if I am in a committed relationship with someone but there is a guy at my job or school who I happen to think is attractive I think that is normal. Now if I put myself in the situation of perhaps going to lunch with this person, talking to them outside of work or school I am setting myself up which can possibly lead to something that I intended to do.
When your boyfriend or girlfriend goes out of town and you invite someone over to “hang out” and then something happens you know in the back of your mind what your intentions was. I hate when women stay in denial and be like we were just talking and one thing lead to another. BULLSHIT! Once you already have in your mind to act on something there is no stopping in someone. They are going to cheat.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER……well maybe…someone prove me wrong!
Summer school just ended and now I am waiting for the fall semester to begin. I am currently enrolled in Broward College where I started in May and completed two summer semesters. I don’t think I could do that ever again. I tried to jump in too quick and I think I took too many classes to try to hurry to finish. Altogether I took 6 classes and received 3 A’s 2 C’s and a B. I am pretty proud of myself because that was my first time back to school in a couple of years. The fall term I am taking 6 classes again but the duration is longer so I am hoping for 4 A’s and 2 B’s. I would really like to graduate next spring and transfer to Florida International University.
I am studying Business Administration and Human Resources Management. I hope that I continue with school and obtain my B.A in the next 2 years or so. I am happy that with technology advancing I am able to take online classes. I would have never found a way to keep my work schedule the same and go to school at campus the same time..
Okay so as I was finishing my homework I was watching Social Network for the third or fourth time and I keep thinking to myself are some people just born with brains or is it a gift or what. I mean Mark Zuckerberg created something HUGE in the dorm room of his college. And now he is the worls youngest billionaire!! That is a huge accomplishment!! Okay I know he was smart because he went to Harvard but it just wows me how people are so talented that can come up with ideas that are worth billions of dollars. Everyone has thought about doing something. How many times are you sitting somewhere and just thinking about doing something that could be the next big thing?
It is almost similar to sports. These athletes get paid millions of dollars for a gift they have. But then I think to myself is it really a gift or is it just hard work and determination? Did their parents force them to go to practice day in and day out because of something they saw inside of them? I wonder how many athletes actually enjoy the game they play rather than the money they are making. Take LeBron James for example what if no one noticed him in high school, would he still be the big star he is today? Do you have to be in the right place at the right time for someone to notice you? I wonder how fame really works sometimes..
I have a really smart friend Alex (www.geilt.com) who is extremely smart. I feel dumb when I talk to him at times. He builds my spirits at times because he says he sees something in me that I could do something huge with social media but I just feel at times that I don’t know what to do with it. He finally stood up for himself at work and took a leap of faith and started his own company (www.esotech.org). He can do almost everything on a computer. He designs websites, databases, etc. The coding and programming he does is just absolutely nuts. He tries to show me at times and I just nod like I understand when he is speaking but in actuality I don’t most of the time (sorry Alex). And I keep telling him with his smarts he could design the next Facebook or social media websites. I know he has the ability too.
Anyways enough of me rambling but I wonder if I have a gift to do something or maybe I just haven’t found it yet. When
In a couple of hours I will no longer be considered a “young adult” but I will transform into an adult (when did this happen?). I can’t believe I finished 24 years of my life already. The first 24 years of my life I learned what is wrong and right, how to speak,walk, how to deal with peer pressure, who my real friends are, how to accept and how to deal with life.
I will look back on these years of some of the best. I made some smart and not so smart decisions. I left home when I was 19 to move to Miami because I was in love. Love got me into numerous battles but I overcame them and met some great people to always lend a helping hand.
I may not be married and I have no baby daddy drama but I can say I am happy where my life is at right now. I am back in school and with a goal to finish next year. I am grateful to have a job in this horrible economy. I have my own furnished apartment that I pay for and I can call mine. I am changing my life for the better by getting my body into shape and living a healthy lifestyle! I love the fact that I got into social networking!
I have lost a lot of people in my life, but as I am getting older I am realizing I don’t need a thousand people in my life. I rather have a few and know that I can count on and will be there. I just wanted to take a moment to thank everyone who has been in my life these last 24 years. Good or bad everyone that came into my life taught me something. The experiences I went through made me who I am today and even though at first some things may hurt it only makes me stronger!!!
Ever wonder what it would be like if the LGBT community ruled the world? Well, GLAAD Award-winner Tyra Banks wondered too, so yesterday on her show she conducted a little “social experiment” called “The Gay Kingdom.” Six members of the LGBT community — who identified themselves as: “masculine gay man,” “transgendered woman,” “butch lesbian,” “drag queen,” “feminine gay man,” “bisexual man,” and “lipstick lesbian” — volunteered to vote on and role play a LGBT social hierarchy, and discuss the results on Tyra show.
I did not there were issues inside the LGBT community. I always thought it was just the straight people against the “gay” and “lesbian” community. The task of The Gay Kingdom was to assign the following roles to each of the participants: king, queen, pauper, jester, cook, villain, concubine.
There was conflict from the beginning when the drag queen took the role of the moderator. The first role to be determined was the king. The masculine gay man automatically thought he should be king because he was the stereotypical king figure. The butch lesbian also thought she should be king because she too could show strength and vulnerability. And the bisexual man because he is on top! All members voted that the masculine gay male should be king!
The next role to be determine was the queen. The drag queen, the lipstick lesbian and the feminine gay male all wanted to be queen. The lipstick lesbian won the vote because she is normal according to society according to her.
The other roles were doled out as follows: the butch lesbian was made villain; the drag queen was voted jester; the feminine gay man was relegated to kitchen duty as cook; the bisexual man was chosen as the pauper; the transgendered woman was made concubine.
During the whole show nearly everyone took a shot at the bisexual man telling him that he doesn’t belong and show be ashamed of himself because he needs to pick a side (gay or straight).
Tyra noted that feminine gay men are often represented on television, but it’s very rare to see a butch lesbian portrayed. Hedda Lettuce jumped in with an assessment: “Feminine lesbians, it’s easy for men to fantasize about. Masculine lesbians, they go, ‘She can fix my car, but oh my God, don’t come near me!’”
The transgenered made a comment that she feels like she does not belong because she is now a woman and in a relationship with a man that in society she is a straight women. It was interesting to hear some of these point of views inside the LGBT community that I had no idea went on. It was also kind of funny how Tyra made an analogy involving the bisexual man saying that it is almost similar to being mixed. A person that is half black and half white for example can hang out and be accepted by “white” people and can do the same with “black” people and at the end of the day they are not fully black or white.
It was an interesting show and I love social experiments. What are you thoughts on the gay kingdom?
I thought this video was so funny. I don’t take any offense to it so you shouldn’t either!
In case you haven’t noticed Social Media is HUGE! I go onto Facebook and Twitter everyday. I love networking and meeting new personalities online. I want to share a personal experience that happened to me and it was because of social media it was resolved in a timely manner.
I have a PO BOX so I normally check my mail about once a week because most of my bills are done online so I don’t really receive paper. But anyway so I received a letter from a collection agency stating that I owe AllState for my last month of usage! It was already paid for. I canceled it with my agent and I sent over all my paperwork and I have everything in writing from my agent stating I was “In good hands”. It seemed like everyone I talked to did not want to help me at the collection agency as well at AllState.
I went on Twitter and I was tweeting and venting about my dilemma and someone sent me a mention. It was from @allstate. They were sorry for all the inconvenience and he DM me to get my personal information and forwarded to someone in their corporate office. I got a call this morning and everything was taken care of and cleared with the collection agency. They did admit it was an error on their end.
It just goes to show that networking with people online is useful and in this particular situation it actually helped me out a bunch.
Do you ever think people are who they really say they are? Think about this…
Brad a loving husband and father to 2 kids Rebbecca and Daniel. He has a nice car, nice home, works at a corporation you know the works. You see him every morning as your getting your newspaper off your drive way and he is on his way to work. All the kids on the block come to his house to play with their kids. He throws the neighborhood block parties through out the year. You just keep thinking to yourself this man is such a good man right?
What if I told you Brad is a sexual predator and looks for young girls on the Internet at work. Also, that he has met up with a few of them all under the age of 18. What if you suddenly saw him on the news for getting caught? That man that you thought was so perfect suddenly doesn’t seem so perfect now does he. That is only one situation out of many with people who have alter egos.
A lot of alter egos come from the Internet. But what is it that actually drives someone to change the way they are to act so different on the Internet? Some people use the Internet as an escape to be who they think they want to be because perhaps they are too shy in person. It is easy to be “free” on the Internet because your not speaking with someone directly. We have a tendency to be more open and express ourselves more on the Internet because we feel safe. In person there is always a chance of rejection or fear of approaching someone. On the Internet we create identities to either be someone we are not or be someone who we wish to be.
Some of us get so into our alter ego online that we forget who we really are. Statistics show that 1 in 5 relationships start online. How many of those relationships do you think would have started if it wasn’t online. People have confidence online and can chat with others and not so much scared of the rejection. Everyone is who they are but I think everyone deep down to some extent acts different on the Internet. Alter egos are everywhere. Do you have one?